My parents hate each other? And me?
Posted by admin | Filed under Family
Starr asked:
My mom and dad argue and scream at each other constantly. Neither of them will file for divorce because they don’t want to sell the house, my mom doesn’t work, et cetra. This has been going on for nearly ten years. My dad is an alcoholic and owns an excavating company. When I was 10 he threatened to drive through our house with a bulldozer and has said he would shoot us. My mom is bipolar, screaming at me one minute and “I love you, sweetie. I’m sorry.” 20 minutes later.
My mom calls me fat and I’m 5′4, I only weigh 120 I’m not even fat.
I can’t move out for another year and I’m about to have a nervous breakdown. I have to keep my parents in my life if I want to go to college. I can’t pay for it by myself (I’m 17). But if I sever ties with them next year I can move out and work w/ o college. I have my high school diploma already. Which should I do?
My mom and dad argue and scream at each other constantly. Neither of them will file for divorce because they don’t want to sell the house, my mom doesn’t work, et cetra. This has been going on for nearly ten years. My dad is an alcoholic and owns an excavating company. When I was 10 he threatened to drive through our house with a bulldozer and has said he would shoot us. My mom is bipolar, screaming at me one minute and “I love you, sweetie. I’m sorry.” 20 minutes later.
My mom calls me fat and I’m 5′4, I only weigh 120 I’m not even fat.
I can’t move out for another year and I’m about to have a nervous breakdown. I have to keep my parents in my life if I want to go to college. I can’t pay for it by myself (I’m 17). But if I sever ties with them next year I can move out and work w/ o college. I have my high school diploma already. Which should I do?
December 6th, 2009 at 12:11 am
You can get a loan for college.
Perhaps you could intentionally stay out of the house for the time being, just so you don’t have to be in the middle of a fued.
December 6th, 2009 at 9:28 am
right stay out if the house, and yor are 17 and 5′4, and only 120, pounds wow, your mom is so wrong, i’m 13 5′4, and 152 pounds.
December 8th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Stay in the house, because of the possibilities of your dad hurting your mom. At least you know that you’re not fat and that you have a nice body image of yourself. Keep your mind clear, and help your mom. Get your dad some help, and get them a divorce. You can have a student loan, you don’t need them. Stick it out, you’ve gotten ten years this far, right?
December 10th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
I am sorry for the situation that you are in. I just want to reach out to you and take you away from that crap but the best thing I can do for you is listen and give you my best advice. So here it goes. First of all you are not fat!!!!!!! You are at the right weight for you height. I think that with your mother being bipolar she says things that are hurtful to you because she is not mentally healthy. And it has got to be so confusing when she yells at you one minute and in the next breath she is so sorry. If you really want to go to college and feel like you have to stay at home then try to stick it out and seek out therapy because therapy is great. A therapist will take you in and listen to you and help you cope with what is going on inside your home. If you don’t want to go that route that is fine too. Is it possible to live with a friend or another family member for the time being without severing ties with mom and dad? If not just stick with it I know its hard to deal with this every day. Seek out your friends as much as possible. I don’t know if you go to church or not but you could also talk to a pastor if you do and if not you could still go talk to one. They would take you in in a heartbeat!. If you feel like you just can’t do this at all and you do choose to work, you can save your money as much as you can and you can always apply for financial aid (FAFSA) if you have your mind set on a college already you could go talk to them about the financial aid that you are eligible for and I am almost positive that you could get a very good financial aid loan because you are so young and you probably would not have a very high paying job. Financial aid can be used not just for tuition and books but it is and aid for you that you can use for gas for your car, car repairs if you travel back and forth to school because that causes wear and tear on your car, food, bills,rent, whatever you need it for. I really hope that this works out for you!
December 12th, 2009 at 8:17 am
Get your Mom advise, help with medication. Tell your dad to get AA help. Some day you will be married with grandchildren around these persons. Find any job and plan to move out.
December 13th, 2009 at 3:25 am
aw hun your mom calls you fat? thats horrible..