Worried about our future. Any advice?
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My bf & I have gotten really serious. I love him very much and I want to be supportive of him. I am just nervous that he doesn’t have direction. We are both 28. I am a single mom, have a career, and just about done with my college education. He hasn’t really thought about a direction with a career until recently. These are some of his options now. I want to help him, but I’m a little scared about our future… I know he’s a hard worker, but I’m just scared of him just now trying to figure things out.
He has been with a company that manufactures heavy duty construction equipment & he is the foreman of the assembly dept. Unfortunately, the company isn’t doing so well. It is a small family owned company and it has laid of the majority of its employees. He also has a history of working for his dad’s excavating company. It has been in business for 15 yrs. They do everything from excavating, to putting in new yards, to seal-coating & snow removal. His dad has offered to pass the company down to him, but he is nervous about running it. He can do the work very well, but he just can’t tell how profitable the company will be. His dad has always worked for the fire dept part-time as well and he has just always paid his son’s & other’s in cash to assist with jobs. So it isn’t a very well organized business, but it is reputable. He also has been taking classes just recently for HVAC since a friend of his family has offered him an entry-level position if he completes some classes.
I am just looking for advice how how to help support him… which direction to take. He has a few right now & I don’t know which is better. Wanted to see if anyone had any opinions on the options. I love him regardless & I will be supportive. It is just a scary time as we all know.
December 12th, 2009 at 1:54 am
What you are reporting here is no more than the ordinary struggles that we all face in life. Yes, of course, there is risk. He might not succeed. But you may also loose your job tomorrow. So the uncertainty is part of living. I can’t give you more of an assurance. You are just facing what life is all about.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:53 am
What does this have to do with your love for each other? I could understand your concerns if he was a lazy man but no one right now can guarantee their future. If his business does not work out, he will get another job.
December 15th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
Hold on, (rolling over), okay, SmilieBall says, “Education is good, but stay with the company he has history with”.
December 19th, 2009 at 12:17 am
“No Guts No Glory”
“No Pain No Gain”
“Hard work will make anything & everything possible”
“Trust your self First and move with good confidence and the trust in God”
“Opportunity knocks the door only one time in our life”
Here God has given the opportunity So don’t miss it.
December 19th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
My advice is simple. Quit worrying over things you can’t control and live your life. He will do fine and has many skills and qualities to draw upon if his job ends. He sounds as though he does have direction and many opportunities if he so needs so he’s in better shape than so many of us with limited education and a dead end job in a crap economy. Your lives will be just fine if you don’t overspend and be wary that at any given time in an economic mess such as we’re in you may need to find other work. Live for the present, plan for the future but never stress about the unknown. Good luck